A New Year's resolution is a personal commitment to positive change. Oftentimes though, once the bells and whistles have faded from our New Years' celebrations, the daunting task of the actual work involved in keeping a resolution overwhelms us. It's important to choose something that's actually attainable (not I will lose 50 pounds by March) - that way you won't disappoint yourself. One smart resolution that can help you in all areas of your life, like dating and relationships, is to change your attitude. We've all heard about The Secret, positive thinking, how energy attracts like energy etc., and while… more

New Year's is the oldest of all holidays; first marked around 4,000 years ago, close to the year 2000 BC. At its inception however, the New Year was marked by the first new moon after the Spring Equinox, a logical time to celebrate, both agriculturally and astronomically. Celebrating New Year's on January 1st however, is completely arbitrary, due to the tampering of the Roman calendar by various emperors.

In 153 BC, the Roman senate declared January 1 to be the beginning of the new year in order to set the calendar right. However, the tampering continued… more

Being thankful in such a "self"-oriented culture can be difficult, but as we (hopefully) move into being conscious adults, we begin to peel back the layers to find what's truly important to us in this world. It's easy to find fault with our current situation; we don't have "enough" money, "enough" love, "enough" power etc. But in comparison to those less fortunate, we often have more than enough. When you find yourself dissatisfied and constantly wanting for things, chances are, the attainment of the "things" you so desire would still not bring you contentment. The funny thing is, when we… more

Have you ever met someone who rubbed you the wrong way from the very beginning? Given a bit of time, it's usually not that difficult to figure out why a certain person aggravates you; many people have personality traits which have developed into negative exaggeration by the time they reach adulthood. This usually happens as a result of low self-esteem; the person latches onto a method of coping with situations and people which give them a false sense of power. They are unable to show their true self, as they are unsure of who that is, and without personal awareness,… more

Have you ever been in a blue mood and not known why? Or felt down and haven't been able to pull yourself out of it? It's easy these days to be overwhelmed by our circumstances and stressed about money, family, work etc., but as "they" say, most of the time it's mind over matter! It can even "feel good" to be sad or angry sometimes, often because it's an emotion you feel comfortable and used to being in. Some of us train ourselves to expect the end result to our situations is more often negative, so instead of being surprised… more

Finally, the first signs of Spring have arrived! And with this warmer weather, comes a sense of new possibilities, fresh starts, and renewed optimism, not only about life in general, but
about our dating life. So how are we doing on our New Year's Resolutions - did we follow through this year? If your resolutions were seemingly a passing fancy, the Springtime is a great time to renew our initial hopes and plans for the coming year. But how prepared are we to take advantage of any positive opportunities that may come our way? Now is a great time… more

We've all experienced episodes of jealousy in our lives. Closely linked to envy, jealousy, according to clinical psychologist Ayala Malach Pines, "is a complex reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship or to its quality". But unlike envy which usually centres around a desire to have something possessed by another, jealousy always involves three people, and a fear of loss.

The reason jealousy is such a complex reaction is due to the fact it encompasses so many thoughts, emotions and behaviors:

Thoughts: blame, comparison of yourself to the rival, resentment, self-pity, insecurity about self-image
Emotions: fear,… more