Breaking up is hard to do – there’s no way around it.\u00a0 Your life as you knew it doesn’t exist anymore, and it feels like a part of you is missing.\u00a0 Sometimes you feel like you’ll never be happy again, and no amount of logic or friends’ advice seems to be able to change your mind on this.\u00a0 We’ve all been through it, and we’ll probably all go through it again at some point, so why do so many of us become our own worst enemies by prolonging the pain in place of healing?\u00a0 It doesn’t have to be this way!<\/p>\n
Tips on getting over a Break-up (without losing your mind)<\/p>\n
1.\u00a0 Realize, first and foremost, that NO OTHER PERSON is responsible for YOUR happiness.\u00a0 Sit with this thought for a moment and digest it.\u00a0 It’s simple but it rings true – we can only be responsible for our actions\/reactions, thoughts, and emotions.\u00a0 Your choices in life are just that – YOUR choices.\u00a0 To project blame or resentment onto another person is a cop-out and a waste of energy.\u00a0 Take all the energy you’re focusing on this other person, and put it back into yourself.\u00a0 It’s the only way to grow past this situation.<\/p>\n
2.\u00a0 Avoid all contact with your ex, and get rid of all reminders of them (if only until you heal).\u00a0 Believing that you can “still be friends” while you are breaking up is a myth.\u00a0 Sometimes breakups happen in stages because the shock of separation is too great to deal with all at once.\u00a0 It’s EXTREMELY common to think that you “need” some kind of contact, but it’s only because you’re so used to it – it’s like an addiction.\u00a0 This will only prolong and postpone your pain.\u00a0 The sooner you are on your own mentally, physically, and emotionally, the sooner you will begin to heal – and that’s ultimately what you want, even if your emotions tell you differently.<\/p>\n
3.\u00a0 Use mindfulness and staying in the present to break your thought patterns.\u00a0 After a breakup, the mind tends to run around in incessant circles.\u00a0 What did I do wrong?\u00a0 How could they do this to me?\u00a0 What could I have done differently?\u00a0 Remember that time…?\u00a0 And on, and on, and on.\u00a0 If you feed into this vicious thought cycle, not only will it not go away, but it will get worse!\u00a0 Start to note when you’re having these thoughts.\u00a0 Try not to get carried away by them, and stay in the present moment.\u00a0 Acknowledge what you’re thinking and feeling, and by doing this it will be easier to recognize the thought patterns as just that and let them go.<\/p>\n
4.\u00a0 Stay busy and don’t get paralyzed by grief.\u00a0 Reach out to friends and family and let them know how you’re feeling.\u00a0 Sometimes the tendency is to cut yourself off and wallow in self-pity – this is NOT the answer – you need diversions and distractions to help you stay focused on the present and stop reliving the past, which you can’t change anyway.\u00a0 By doing things for yourself and with other people, you will learn to be without your ex, and build up your own identity again.<\/p>\n
5.\u00a0 Look within.\u00a0 This breakup is happening to teach you something about yourself, (and it’s not what a bad person you are), and to help you grow.\u00a0 Most of the time when a breakup feels unbearable, it’s a sign that you were looking to the other person for your identity.\u00a0 You felt “complete” with them and you felt better about yourself in this relationship because you don’t possess a healthy self-worth.\u00a0 When you feel like you’re nothing after a break-up, it’s because your self-esteem is not what it should be.\u00a0 You are no good to yourself or anyone else unless you can love yourself on your own.\u00a0 Use this breakup as a catalyst for a better you and the happiness that you deserve to have and share.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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