Nervous? How to Loosen Up Before a Date

Everyone gets a little nervous before going out on a date. It’s only natural. Confidence is key; people with confidence appear more attractive to others, so calm those nerves and feel good about yourself before that all-important meeting. These tips can help you loosen up and get your confidence soaring to make the very best impression:

Think and feel positive

Not only should you feed yourself positive thoughts by telling yourself things like, “I look great,” “I’m a likable person,” etc., you should also feel those things. If there is an inner voice that is telling you that you aren’t worthy, banish that negative voice by recalling your best attributes and even compliments you’ve received in the past. If you need to, write them down so they really sink in.

Now, go over that list in your head or on paper. You may even want to practice a little meditation or deep breathing as you do this to really help you relax and embed the message into your mind. Close your eyes, breathe deeply for a count of four, hold for four and release for a count of four, all while focusing on those positive attributes. Before you know it, you’ll feel like you’re more than worthy of receiving affection and your confidence will soar.


If your mind is going a mile a minute, exercise can help clear your head and get rid of all that restless energy. Do what feels best to you, whether it’s going for a short run or practicing yoga. It can help make you feel physically and mentally balanced, as well as more confident.

Soak your worries away

Taking a nice long soak in a hot tub is an ideal way to relax your body and mind before a date. Listen to calming music as you let the soothing water carry your worries away. You might even want to try relaxing one body part at a time, from your head to your toes, until you’re completely and thoroughly relaxed.

Release tension with acupressure

Accupressure is an ancient healing method that works by balancing the circulation of energy and fluids throughout the body, and can help release nervous tension. Using your thumb and forefinger, massage the soft area that’s between the index finger and thumb on your other hand.

You can also try gently massaging your ears with your thumb and forefinger for several minutes. Just pull down gently on your ear lobes and rub the inner surface of the ear. Either method can help relieve tension and make you feel calmer.


Research has shown that lavender oil can reduce agitation and feelings of anxiousness, and even help one to feel more positive. All it takes is a minute to place a few drops onto your palm and inhale. The scent is believed to work by stimulating smell receptors in the nose that connect to an area of the brain responsible for regulating emotions.

Prepare early

Give yourself plenty of time to prepare so you aren’t feeling rushed and worried about being on time, which can make you lose your composure. Choose your outfit well in advance, keeping in mind what you wear can make you feel good about yourself, which can further boost your confidence.

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