4 Questions – Should I Let This Relationship Go? March 26, 2016 Ragna Stamm'ler-Adamson Sharing is sexy Personal growth is one goal that’s truly worth pursuing. Personal growth is discovering who you are, not only inside, but in relation to those around you. It’s about finding your inner peace as well as peace within your relationships. And while society encourages us to believe relationships should last “forever”, is this even realistic when both parties are growing at different speeds, and often in different directions? It can be hard for us to let go, but relationships (romantic or friendship), are only beneficial as long as each person involved is having their needs met. So how do you know when it’s time to let a relationship go? 4 Questions – Should I let this relationship go? 1. Here & Now. If you met this person right now, without any of your joint history, what would you think of them? Would this be someone you’d pursue a relationship with based on who you are today? This can be very helpful in determining if you’re holding onto to a relationship’s memories instead of where it actually stands. 2. Equality. Are you receiving as much as you give within the relationship? Because of our childhood behavioural conditioning, lop-sided energy in relationships can seem “normal” to us, especially if we believe we’re not worthy of receiving love. Alternatively, if we grow up believing we’re superior to others or that our needs are more important, we can feel ok taking more than we give. Either way, once the “giver” starts to realize they deserve an equal voice and equal rights, a lop-sided relationship can lose its relevance, often resulting in friction. 3. Toxicity. How do you feel when you’re in this relationship – does your energy feel drained? If being around the other person causes you to feel unsupported, insecure, or upset, chances are it’s time to at least take a break. Remembering that no one can “make” you feel a certain way unless you allow it, sometimes our self-esteem cannot handle being around such blatant negativity. Until you can build yourself up to the point where others’ opinions don’t change your positive opinion of yourself, it may be prudent to surround yourself only with those who are encouraging, loving, and non-judgemental. 4. Trust. The cornerstone of all relationships – does this person have your back? If there’s any doubt, and this person is among your closest relationships, it’s time to rethink the situation. As we go through life, those intangible personality traits like trust, take on more meaning as our experiences teach us what we do and don’t need. There’s no shame in realizing your initial impression of someone has now changed. Photo by TimOve About Latest Posts Ragna Stamm'ler-AdamsonFounder & CEO at 25Dates.comRagna Stamm'ler-Adamson is the Founder & CEO of 25Dates.com.She created the company to bring singles together to find love.She enjoys contributing to the blog to let others know that they too can find lasting love as she did:In 2006 she met her loving husband and in 2008, together they were blessed with a beautiful baby boy.Come find me on Google+ Latest posts by Ragna Stamm'ler-Adamson (see all) 3 Simple Ways to Prep Your Home for a Date - December 5, 2018 How to Find Your Confidence When Dating - November 14, 2018 4 Things to Consider When Shopping For an Engagement Ring - October 24, 2018 Sharing is sexy Related posts: 4 Ideas for a Spectacular Anniversary Trip The Ultimate Guide to Buying Your Girlfriend the Perfect Gift 10 Cool Spots for a Hot Summer Date What Do You Want Out of a Relationship?