Long-distance relationships are not easy, but surviving them is possible. They require more communication, trust and planning, but don’t they say distance makes the heart grow fonder? Here are some tips to survive your long distance relationship and keep your sanity.
Keep Lines of Communication Open
Communication is important in every relationship, but it is crucial in long-distance relationships. Stay honest about your emotions and thoughts, and whatever you do, don’t keep them bottled up. Have conversations about everything, both small and large, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. When you’re apart, your entire relationship becomes based on communication, so if you don’t consider yourself a talker, push yourself out of your comfort zone and practice.
Have a Plan
When you’re not separated by distance it’s usually safe to let things play out organically. When you are separated, it’s better to have a plan and talk things out as much as possible. Start with how often you’ll talk and text. Will you have one solid conversation at the end of the day or sporadic short ones throughout? Will you text each other when something funny or interesting happens during your day? Are good morning and good night texts expected from each other?
Plan your visitation schedule. Consider alternating who visits the other or at least splitting travel costs. Lastly, if possible, have a plan for when your long-distance relationship will end. Whether it’s the end of the year or the end of your 4-year degree, visualizing the end date will be the light at the end of the tunnel.
Designate a Date Night
Even if you talk every day on the phone, it doesn’t replace the face time that’s necessary for every long-distance couple. With technology, it’s easy to designate a date night to talk to each other virtually, face to face. Use the iPhone 6’s FaceTime HD camera to create the feeling that you’re together in the same room. Take it a step further by planning an activity for your date night, such as watching a movie at the same time or eating a fancy dinner together (wine and beer included).
Don’t Give up Your Life
When your significant other is not with you, it’s hard not to spend nights or weekends feeling down or counting down the days until you see each other. To keep the blues at bay, it’s important to not give up your social life. Stay involved with your hobbies or find new ones, hang out with your friends, go to the movies and eat at that new restaurant down the block. Don’t stop your life just because you’re in a long-distance relationship. Keeping busy and occupied will make the time go faster and you’ll be doing all the things you love with your significant other in no time.
Let Apps Become Your Friend
Technology is making long-distance relationships more manageable. The free app “Simply Us,” enables you and your loved one to organize your lives together by sharing a calendar, to-do lists, photos and messages. “Avocado” is a great app that shares photos, lists, doodles and chats between you and your significant other, and it has settings for auto clean up to keep things mysterious. “LokLok” is great if you’re busy throughout the day because it will send your sweetheart a handmade doodle straight to his or her lock screen for small reminders that you’re thinking about him or her.