Finding someone to be in a long-term relationship with can take time, and along the way, we can certainly experience many twists and turns. While many of us choose to believe that fate dictates where we end up, we mustn’t ignore the fact that the choices we make influence the final outcome also.
There are certain personal responsibilities we have in order to make the best of our dating life, like getting rid of emotional baggage, and also figuring out what we want and need in a partner. While the term “playing the dating field” may arouse connotations of being a player, or being promiscuous, it’s in fact a healthy way to help us determine what we’re looking for in a partner. Here are a few tips to help you play the field guilt free:
5 Tips for Playing the Field Guilt-Free
1. Be clear with yourself. Remember at all times that dating is not the same as being in a relationship. Playing the field means you are spending time with various types of people, and getting to know them so you can figure out which characteristics in others work for you and which don’t. You should be going out, and having fun while limiting your physical intimacy to kissing. This will help you keep the lines clear and help you not cloud your judgement while you make your decision about that specific person.
2. Be clear with others. Don’t pretend you’re not dating other people – be upfront with those you’re dating and let them know you’re not exclusive at this point. Your honesty will eliminate any misunderstandings regarding where you stand with each other, and potential guilt you might feel for dating multiple people.
3. Maintain privacy. Never share details about the people you’re dating with anyone else you’re dating. This means names, the things you did on your dates or any other personal informations. Avoid the temptation to use your experience with one person to manipulate another.
4. Keep you eyes open. If anyone you’re seeing has an issue that you’re dating other people, this could be a sign that they’re overly possessive. Sometimes we can mistake jealousy and possessiveness as something flattering, but in reality it’s a clear red flag for problems down the line.
5. Make a clear decision. After awhile, it will probably become clear which person you’re dating you’d like to see on a more exclusive basis. Don’t assume the other person knows you’re feeling this way, or that they feel the same way too. Bring up the fact that you’d like to become exclusive and make a joint decision that’s right for both of you.