As singles, we experience a lot of pressure to meet someone, pair off, and settle down. And while it’s certainly now more socially acceptable to be without a mate than it was say 40 years ago, the media, our friends, family and especially we ourselves, can be convinced we’re “less than” when we’re not dating and part of a couple. When we feel pressure to accomplish something, especially of an emotional nature, we have to be very careful of our motivations. If we find ourselves pursuing a relationship for the wrong reasons, it’s a pretty sure bet it’s not going to turn out the way we’d like it to.
5 Wrong Reasons To Date Someone
1. Boredom. When we don’t have much going on in our lives, sometimes we feel like something is better than nothing. If you find yourself looking for a mate to fill time, it might be time to working on yourself, by taking up a hobby or enriching yourself in some way so that you have something to bring to the table when you do end up finding someone you really click with.
2. Fifth Wheel. We’ve all been a fifth wheel at some point in our lives, and it’s not exactly a barrel of laughs. But dating someone so that you fit in with your friends’ lifestyles is never a good reason to start a relationship. If you find yourself surrounded by couples, it’s probably time to find some like-minded single friends, and attend some singles events like speed dating or singes parties. This way you can celebrate your singledom instead of feeling like there’s something wrong with you!
3. Dry Spell/Desperation. When we go for long periods without a steady partner, we can start to feel like we’re “due”. However, while being single is not always easy, it can be an amazing opportunity for self-growth, to get us into shape for when love comes knocking at our door. And the chances for betterment never end…
4. They Look Good On Paper. Sometimes the idea of what we want someone to be like in our head doesn’t match what’s going on in our heart. If you find yourself dating someone because of how it makes you look from the outside – take another look. Unless you really feel something in your heart for someone, an authentic connection, you’re wasting your time and theirs.
5. You Got Caught Up. When we first meet someone, the excitement of romance, socializing, and the idea of falling in love can overtake our logic. Sooner or later, you wake up from the honeymoon stage, and it’s at this moment that many people decide to “settle” because they can’t be bothered starting all over again. Make sure your relationship has the long-lasting passion and respect that you truly want and need for yourself.
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