Is Stress Hurting Your Dating Life?

With the world moving so quickly and everyone trying to fit so much into their lives these days, stress has become a social, physical, and emotional epidemic.  We are stressed out by work, finances, family, relationships, health issues – the list goes on and on.  We all know intellectually, or we should by now, that in the end all we really want and need out of this world is love. All the other things are physical manifestations of what we think we need, but they only bring us temporary happiness, if any at all.

Is stress hurting your dating life?  When we try to date while stressed, the results are usually less than spectacular. People sense negative energy right away, and it’s a repellant. People who are stressed out tend to complain about their lives and what is going wrong with them, how they have so little time, and they act as if the weight of the world is on their shoulders.  It’s no fun to be around people who are in this state; it can be a real energy drainer.

Another issue for people who are overly stressed is that they forget about dating altogether.  They get so wrapped up in the external problems within their lives that they forget what is really important; to love and be loved.  When you ignore what’s going on inside of you, and try to cover it up with external distractions like your job, your finances, and material possessions, you can create an unhappy you – mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and as medical studies are now showing – physically.

Once we start to alleviate our stress, the rest will naturally follow.  You will begin to attract people with a healthy energy, because that is what you are projecting into the world.

Tips on Alleviating Stress

1.  Exercise:  Exercise is one of the best ways to alleviate stress.  This could mean working out at the gym, walking, a team sport, yoga etc.  We hold much tension in our muscles that we don’t even realize, and if there’s no outlet, it simply builds and builds.  Exercise allows us to get in touch with our bodies, and away from our minds which are full of worry – an emotion that does nothing for us but stress us out.  Worrying about something does not mean you have control over its outcome, it’s a waste of energy.

2.  Diet:  What we put into our bodies affects our physical and mental health.  If you do not put healthy things like whole foods into your body, it will not feel well.  This will affect your organs’ functions, including your brain, which is responsible for mental health.  Fast food and processed food do your body no good whatsoever, and only lead to health problems down the line.

3.  Stop bottling up our feelings:  This is very common, and very easy to do these days with all the distractions we have in place.  When is the last time you just sat with your feelings and acknowledged them?  By doing this you can stop them from creating further stress, because once you acknowledge them you can then understand they are there and let them go.

4.  Meditation:  Meditation has been around for thousands of years.  It’s a way to get in touch with the fact that we exist on a level exclusive of our circumstances.  There are many books and CDs that can help you learn to meditate and relax.  By doing so for even as little as 5 or 10 minutes a day, you’ll find your stress level will go down.

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