Good things come to those who wait…but great things come to those who actively seek them. If you want to find love, it’s time to get off the couch and take a proactive approach to finding the right match. For singles looking for their better half, here’s how to take a proactive approach to finding love:
Before you start thinking about finding someone else who will love you, you need to love yourself. Do you like what you see when you look at yourself in the mirror? Are you self-confident and happy with who you are? Work on yourself before you work on finding love. You’ll be more likely to attract a desired partner, and you’ll have a solid foundation upon which love can build.
Have you ever noticed how you seem more attractive to people when you’re in a relationship than when you’re single? When you’re in love, you’re happy, you’re smiling, you’re glowing. You walk straighter, you stand taller, and you’re a positive presence in the world. Try to mirror these traits when you’re looking for love, and you’ll probably find it before too long.
Do you find yourself clinging to past relationships? Do you measure every new partner against a long-lost love? Do you hold yourself back from making connections because of a past heartbreak? Being stuck in the past can prevent you from finding love in the present. Taking a proactive approach means letting go of the past and learning to live, and love, in the present. Reframe your perspective instead – take lessons from past relationships and apply them to a new healthier partnership.
No matter how many times you repeat it, it’s simply not true that all of the good men/women are taken. If you resign yourself to a life of singledom, of course you won’t find love. Taking a proactive approach means saying goodbye to resignation and embracing the statistics that there are thousands upon thousands upon thousands of compatible matches out there, you just need to find one.
Get Out There
You aren’t born with social and flirting skills, you have to train them. Be proactive and hone your charisma, confidence, and comfort with face-to-face interactions. If you don’t have the time or interest to hang out night after night in bars or sign up for activities, there are still other options like speed dating. Speed dating is the perfect way to sharpen your social skills, have some fun, and find mutual chemistry along the way.
Don’t leave love up to fate or chance. Take love into your own hands with these proactive steps.