Tips for Getting Over Unrequited Love July 27, 2018 Ragna Stamm'ler-Adamson Sharing is sexy We all know that being in love can put us on top of the world, but what happens when we love someone and our affections aren’t returned? Unrequited love can be one of the most painfully confusing relationship issues we go through. It can be all-consuming, disappointing – even devastating, and 100% unhealthy. Trying to understand why someone doesn’t feel the same way we do when our feelings are so strong can result in a sort of emotional paralysis, stopping us from moving forward with our lives. But even when there seems to be no relief in sight, there are steps we can take to conquer the situation and take control. Tips for Getting Over Unrequited Love 1. Accept it. Holding out hope for a hopeless situation is where the paralysis comes in, preventing you from moving forward. When someone likes you, they show it. Stop making excuses as to why this person isn’t showing you they have feelings – the fact is they don’t. Until you accept this fact you will stay in exactly the same rut. 2. Dissolve the illusion. Often we project our own idea of who someone is onto the situation, without really having truly experienced them. We imagine them to be everything we want, making their unattainability that much more frustrating and obsessive. The fact is, if they were the person for you, they’d be with you. 3. Remove the evidence. If you’re constantly Facebook stalking them, reading over old emails, imagining past conversations, and showing up where they might be, you will NEVER move on. You must break the connection and begin to imagine your life without them as a primary focus. Treat this as you would any other addiction, and stop feeding it. 4. Keep busy. Distractions are exactly what you need. Increase your social life – go out with friends, go see a movie, spend time with family, start a new hobby, go speed dating! Any time spent where you’re not thinking about this person will strengthen you and your resolve to move on, not to mention increase your opportunities to meet new potential partners. 5. Don’t take it personally. Just because someone isn’t interested in a romantic relationship with you, doesn’t mean you’re any less of a person. There could be many reasons why they’re not interested, and usually all of them have absolutely nothing to do with you! 6. See the big picture. We never seem to realize that the right person could be just around the corner. Realize there’s a reason this situation is not working out the way you think you want it to – it’s not supposed to. We can’t force life to happen, and we have to make the best personal choices for ourselves that make us feel good. Love is not supposed to make us feel badly, ever. About Latest Posts Ragna Stamm'ler-AdamsonFounder & CEO at 25Dates.comRagna Stamm'ler-Adamson is the Founder & CEO of 25Dates.com.She created the company to bring singles together to find love.She enjoys contributing to the blog to let others know that they too can find lasting love as she did:In 2006 she met her loving husband and in 2008, together they were blessed with a beautiful baby boy.Come find me on Google+ Latest posts by Ragna Stamm'ler-Adamson (see all) 3 Simple Ways to Prep Your Home for a Date - December 5, 2018 How to Find Your Confidence When Dating - November 14, 2018 4 Things to Consider When Shopping For an Engagement Ring - October 24, 2018 Sharing is sexy Related posts: How to Survive Your Long-Distance Relationship Great Ideas for Summer Fun Tips for keeping a new relationship on track Tips for Controlling Holiday Stress – Before it Happens!