What Men Do When They Flirt - The Basics
by Robin McGrath
In a recent article, "What Women Do When They Flirt - The Basics" I discussed the most basic body language cues that women use when flirting as observed globally, across cultures, races, and religions. Human beings, like all creatures on this planet, are hardwired to keep the species going. For men and women this begins with flirting.
Flirting is one of the primal behaviours we engage in whether we are single or married. It is our way of saying, "I'm interested in you."
The most basic flirting tactic that can be observed in men is the thrusting of their chests. Creatures great and small, from gorillas to peacocks to frogs, toads, and codfish all display some form of puffing up. It is the male's way of demonstrating his size, strength and dominance. The message of this basic action tells the intended recipient, "I am strong. I can protect you and our offspring." To competitors it is a man's way of saying, "She is mine. I am strong. Stay out of my way."
And whether they want to admit it or not, or are aware of it or not, most - if not all - men thrust their chests in that initial moment of attraction because their most innate impulses take control. It is not a conscious response.
Like women, some men are fully aware that they are flirting and others are completely unaware of it. Men unaware of their own flirtatious behaviours may be a little surprised if they are approached by a woman they have unknowingly attracted because she received the simple message that was inadvertently delivered.
Of course, there is a lot more to flirting, but this basic cue is observed across cultures, continents, and species. And if you want to learn more about what you are doing and not doing, you can always ask 25dates.com's resident Dating Coach, Aaron Adamson