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How To Get Closure from a Past Relationship Most of us have been through a tough break-up at some point in our lives. The feelings of despair, hopelessness, sadness and loneliness we experience are often overwhelming, and often seem endless. Usually though, with the help of friends, family, and our undeniable human spirit - we eventually get over our heartbreak. We slowly pick up the pieces, put ourselves back together, and move on, hopefully stronger and wiser in the end. Sometimes however, we can't seem to "get over it". We can't seem to understand how the other person could have left us. We had so much invested in… more |
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How To Be Your Own Hero The dictionary definition of the word Hero is, "a person of distinguished courage or ability, admired for his brave deeds and noble qualities." Literature, movies, and history are full of them; they are people we look up to and idealize, they are our role models, and unfortunately we often see them as possessing different and unattainable qualities than we ourselves are not capable of having. Being a modern-day hero however, is not about fighting dragons, or hundreds of men singlehandedly - it's about facing odds, surviving battles (internal and external), and overcoming these challenges. They come out on the other… more |
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How Has Your Life Been So Far? There are times in our lives, usually through crisis or trauma, or as the end of our lives near, when we're forced to confront our mortality and take a hard look at who we are, and who we've been. These life changing events can really show us what's important, what we need to work on and change about ourselves, and they can also clear up any confusion about where we want our future to head. Wouldn't it be great though, to know these things without crisis "showing" us who we are and how we feel about ourselves and life in… more |
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Are You Romantic? Some say romance is dead, and in our hectic world, for some, this may unfortunately be true. Like anything worth its salt though, romance, after the initial "honeymoon" stage of a relationship, takes effort, thought, and consideration to keep it fresh and alive. So what is Romance exactly and why do we need it? Romance is an expression and celebration of two peoples' feelings towards one another, it's the identity of your love. Doing romantic things for your partner shows them what they mean to you. What often ends up happening, is once we're in a committed relationship, we stop… more |
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Jealousy and How to Deal With It We've all experienced episodes of jealousy in our lives. Closely linked to envy, jealousy, according to clinical psychologist Ayala Malach Pines, "is a complex reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship or to its quality". But unlike envy which usually centres around a desire to have something possessed by another, jealousy always involves three people, and a fear of loss. The reason jealousy is such a complex reaction is due to the fact it encompasses so many thoughts, emotions and behaviors: Thoughts: blame, comparison of yourself to the rival, resentment, self-pity, insecurity about self-image Emotions: fear, humiliation, envy,… more |
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How Far Did You Get in 2008? As we approach the end of 2008 amidst all the unavoidable holiday busyness, let's try to take a few moments to ourselves to reflect on the past year, and what it's meant to us. In our fast-paced culture, we tend to skip ahead without looking back, so before we start boldly proclaiming our New Year's resolutions, it's probably a good idea to think about how far we came in terms of our personal growth, and love-life, in 2008. Questions to Ask Yourself: 1. What did you learn about yourself this past year? Was there anything that surprised you about your… more |
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Dating in our 20s vs. Our 30s Many of us find ourselves back in the dating pool when we're in our 30s, and not only wondering how it happened, but if there will ever be an end in sight. It's easy when we're in our 20s to imagine ourselves being married by a pre-determined age, with kids and the career we want, living happily ever after. Life however, doesn't usually end up the way we plan it. So what's the difference between dating in your 20s vs. dating in your 30s/40s? The only difference really, is ourselves. Dating in our 20s The Pros Dating is fun! We're… more |
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Tips for Surviving Your First Vacation Together The first vacation with your new significant other is a milestone in your relationship. Not only is it a sign (and statement) of commitment, but it can really speed up your process of getting to know each other. As anyone who's ever traveled knows, when you remove the comforts of home and replace them with new surroundings and experiences, one's personality can't help but shine through - for better or for worse. Traveling demands a certain amount of flexibility; after all, you're in a place where you have much less control over your surroundings than you would at home. Because… more |
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How To Help Your Friend Through A Breakup Most of us have been through difficult break-ups. Getting over the ending of a relationship is a process that can't be rushed - we all mourn in our own way in our own time. And while it's one thing to be in the middle of it ourselves, what about when we have to watch a good friend go through the pain and turmoil while we feel helpless on the sidelines? At times you feel bad for them, at times you want them to snap out of it so you can have your fun-loving friend back. It's a real testament to… more |
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Bad Boys Men and Women alike have been perplexed through time by the magnetism of the "Bad Boy". As a good guy, you wonder how you can possibly compete with this cocky archetype, and as a woman you wonder why you would put yourself in such a no-win situation. As with all human relations, the combination of natural instinct and societal factors can create a complex and confusing circuitry through which we try to find that often elusive "perfect relationship". Many would argue that we experience relationships in order to teach us things about ourselves and if that's the case, what can… more |
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Are You Ready for a Relationship? Did anyone catch the Bachelor finale recently? Yes, yes, guys we know it's our guilty pleasure and we don't expect you to watch it too, but let's give you the rundown. One attractive man. 25 attractive, and for the most part, intelligent women. Over a period of six weeks, the bachelor "dates" these women, eliminating a few at a time until he's left with two. By this point, he's met their families, they've met his, and he just has to make that choice between the two. Easy right? Well not this time. On the final day, he tells one girl… more |
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